by erika haveman

Here’s what I’d like to know – probably again as I’ve probably asked this question before.  What happened to the pursuit?  Even the playing hard to get?  Has all of that disappeared?  Did I miss something?  Am I really as Grandma as everyone says I am?

I was travelling from Abbotsford to Hamilton with a layover in Winnipeg recently.  I only had about 30 minutes between flights but knew that I wanted food.  I trudged down the concourse to find the Starbucks which was a few minutes walk from my departing gate.  I really wanted either a panini or fruit.  When I got to the Starbucks it had neither.  They had lemon raspberry cake or bagels – not quite what I had been craving.  As I stood there debating what to do, knowing I had limited time (my flight was already boarding) an attractive young man walked up.  I promptly tell him to go ahead of me as I’m stuck as to what kind of decision to make.  We strike up a conversation and he’s clearly flirting.  I don’t mind.  I took it as it came, settled on a Chai latte, then hurried back to, unsurprisingly, be the last person to board my flight. He was flying to Saskatoon so all my hopes for a future date with this tall, blonde haired, blue eyed prince would be held on hold at that Starbucks in YWG.

Continue reading “Is The Pursuit Dead? [Part 1]”

by erika haveman

One thing I’d been realizing is that I’ve made a lot of assumptions since starting this series. The biggest assumption, or presupposition, I’ve made is that the Old Testament is to be studied and read as a historical narrative.  I’m typically a huge proponent of over communication, so I’m going to take a moment and do just that because it will help (hopefully) put A LOT of the OT into perspective for you.

I came under the realization of my own presuppositions when realizing that the authors of these narrative books I’m blogging about had presuppositions that the original readers of their books would have naturally and obviously understood.  We are not the original readers of any of the books in the Bible.  These books weren’t written with us in mind.  Can we learn from them?  Yes, of course.  But the Biblical narrative of the Old Testament is first and foremost a historical narrative telling God’s story of redeeming His people.  It is not a bunch of allegories or illustrative moral stories about right and wrong.  We want the OT to be these things – because it’s easier for us to understand – but it’s not.  The original readers of the OT books would have understood all of what the author was saying, they would have known the names in the stories, and they would have understood the messages of encouragement, challenge, rebuke, or hope that the books were offering. Our job is to try and get into the mindset of that original reader and from there we can properly learn from what was said.  We have to read out of the OT as opposed to into it (meaning we lay aside our agendas).  Keeping that in mind, we jump into 1 Samuel and something much more specific this week.

Continue reading “Jonathan and David – What 1 Samuel Teaches Us About Sexuality”

by erika haveman

Why is the book of Ruth actually included in the Bible?  A lot of people would say, “Well Ruth is such a great example of woman in love with a holy man!” or, “We can learn about dating and romance – just look at Ruth and Boaz!” or, “God wanted to give us an example of brokenness and bitterness turned into joy through Naomi’s story!”  While all of these are good, plausible things to consider, I would dare to suggest that the reason this book is included in Scriptures is to explain one thing: 1 Samuel 22:3-4.

“And David went from there to Mizpeh of Moab. And he said to the king of Moab, “Please let my father and my mother stay with you, till I know what God will do for me.” And he left them with the king of Moab, and they stayed with him all the time that David was in the stronghold.”

Continue reading “Life’s Not About Finding Your Boaz – What Ruth Teaches Us About Sexuality”

by erika haveman

For quite some time, now, I would dare to suggest that the world, and many a Christian as well, has believed the lie that they are defined by their sexuality.  Self control seeking to honour the Lord has been replaced by “sex control” which seeks to honour oneself.  As a result God is painted as a Being who doesn’t care about His own standards of holiness.

When it comes to sexuality we cannot lay aside what the Bible says or the stories that we can learn from.  The book of Judges can be especially insightful as we study God’s standards for not just sexuality, but also our lives.

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by erika haveman

“If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him.  For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.” – Deuteronomy 24:5

Should couples take the first year of their marriage off?  I mean it’s Biblical, right?

If I had a quarter for every time I heard people use this to justify taking a year off from working during their first year of marriage…well personally I’d probably have less than $2.  But I know this is actually a common thought in many Christian circles.

Continue reading “One Year of Marital Bliss – The Deuteronomy & Joshua Connection”

by erika haveman

Sometimes life is dreamy.  Today as I write I’m on a train, riding along the eastern coast of Taiwan.  Every so often fragmented views of the ocean peek into my line of sight, but I’m definitely not bored by consistent views of the lush green growth the tropical environment here permits.  It’s rained for the past four days, but I don’t care because life is grand.  I get to teach the Bible for a living, travelling the globe to spread the Gospel (for more information on my mission work, click here).  The work I have to do is hard, but what job doesn’t have its challenges?  All jobs also have their respite, too.  Like moments on an express train between Taitung and Taipei City.  The reality for all of us is that God has called us to do something, to be responsible for something (often many things).  When God asks us to be responsible for something, He expects us to put in an effort and to authentically partner with Him in order to bring that responsibility to full fruition to make His name great.  This is the message in the book of Joshua: God makes promises He will fulfill, but we need to partner with Him to make things happen.

Continue reading “Boldness in Action – What Joshua Teaches Us About Sexuality”

by erika haveman

I left you last week only having just started to scratch the surface on some laws that we might consider offensive.  But we need to read this book remembering that we glean from it the truth of what God is saying.  This book wasn’t written directly to us – it was written directly to a people in a nation with specific and often vastly different issues than ours.  With that in mind, here are 2 things we need to consider in light of, specifically, the law about rape and the victim marrying their rapist.

Continue reading “Sexual Violations Defined: What Deuteronomy Teaches Us About Sexuality [Part 2]”