One of my favourite movies is The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. Story of my life if I ever saw one. I used to be a total day dreamer, conjuring up impossible and ridiculous scenarios that made me the hero, or at least that made me the woman in the hero’s arms. I am naturally someone comfortable with staying in on a Saturday night, with my best effort at risk being trying the “no name” granola bars instead of the “Quaker” ones (better price, you know?) I’m not spontaneous, danger or thrill seeking. In my head I like to think I could become that way, but I’ve learned to champion the truth of who I am: not that. Another reason I love and connect with the movie is how inspirational it is, portraying organically Walter shifting from day dreamer to dreamer. It’s a beautiful transition, and the first time I saw the move I knew that’s exaclty what God was working out in my life. I encourage you to watch the movie, push through the somewhat confusing day dreams, and watch as a wary, fear-filled life transforms into one of trust, pursuit and beauty. But I’m not writing to get you to watch the film; rather I want to reflect on one of my absolute favourite lines in it. It’s spoken by Sean O’Connell (Sean Penn), photographer extraordinaire who has lived the life of a daredevile just to capture a moment in time worthy of being shared with the world. In a scene where Walter (Ben Stiller) has travelled literally across the world to find Sean sitting somewhere in the Himalayas (see – story of my life! Who knew I’d be in the Himalayas less than a year after I saw the movie!?) While sitting and conversing over why Walter has sought out Sean, there is a pause in conversation as the entire point of the movie comes to life as Sean so brilliantly suggests, “beautiful things don’t ask for attention.”

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Last week I started laying down a case for how the world sees virginity as something to be less than valued, minimizing it to something someone “does”.  Phrases like “put out,” “tap that,” and “doing it” are often used in place of sex, as if you using a vulgarity to demean sex makes it okay.  It’s simply not okay, and who is advocating for things like staying pure until marriage?  How can you stay pure until marriage when the world is telling you it’s okay to not wait and you’re facing feelings of sexual desire?

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